These articles seemed very relevant and since I’m open to marrying someone with kids, and B”H when I find someone who will marry me this appears to be sound advice. Lilly Lion writes about Stepmom Do’s and Don’ts and Elizabeth Kennedy writes about Becoming a Stepfather: Top Ten Things You Must Know.
Ozer Bergman, an editor for the Breslov Research Institute, a spiritual coach, and author of Where Earth and Heaven Kiss: A Practical Guide to Rebbe Nachman’s Path of Meditation, offers some renditions of Reb Noson’s prayers to find one’s bashert: here, from last weeks parasha.
My father taught me that theres only one rule – “you have to marry a jewish girl”. If you want to be Jewish that is… and you’re part of a long line of Jews, because of you your children will be the first to break that chain. “The only way out is to convert and then you have to learn all the rules, don’t ask me them, I don’t know them”. My father taught me enough of the basics to get by, and the important things of course.
And I married a reform girl, who agreed to convert. We did the conversion and I learned all the rules. I always had it in me, a fascination about how to do it. Only when it was forced upon me did it start to make sense. I understand why it’s good to grow up with, a sense of normality.
It’s been almost a year since I’ve been with a woman, hopefully my divorce will be over soon. I mean I’ve been out a few times and I’m excited about my life ahead. I’m also excited about being close to the force, and what that means about how things will play out.
I’m not sure where this originated or who the original author is although my sense is that anyone – not only singles – can benefit from this. Of course going through a divorce or any other hard time in life, it’s nice to get a gentle reminder about how good life really is. Please leave a comment to tell me your favorite number(s)… mine are #16 and #30. Enjoy and make it a great day!
1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
4. Live with the 3 E’s — Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy.
5. Make time to pray.
6. Play more games.
7. Read more books than you did in 2008.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minute walk daily. And while you walk, smile.
14. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
11. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don’t have negative thoughts on things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don’t overdo. Keep your limits.
14. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake.
17..Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need….
18. Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away; like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything.
28.Spend time w/ people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. G_D heals everything.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come.
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank G_D for it.
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.
And someone said: “Life isn’t about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain!”
Dr. Terri Orbuch, research professor at the University of Michigan and author of the new book “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship,” has found that some of the best relationship advice comes from people who are actually divorced.
In 1986, Orbuch embarked on a long-term study, supported by the National Institutes of Health (NIH), which followed the relationships of 373 newlyweds. By 2012, 46% had divorced, about the same as the national average. In interviews with Orbuch, people who had divorced or ended a serious relationship over and over again brought up the same five issues that they would improve if they had the chance to do it all again.
I’ve finally found a use for this blog, I’ll be chatting about Shidduchim. It’s a new area for me so please excuse my naivety. I decided to wear a yarmi full time some five years ago and that has now landed me in the position where a shidduch is my quest. I’ve been married for fourteen years and my wife finally acted upon the words she said before we were married the first time, she does not believe a man and a woman are meant to be together forever. Well I do, and I realise that a man and woman are meant to be together in this transmigration and the next, so this is my quest…. I hope I can be the man described by Lesley Silver-Winick in her article Finding Your Beshert